Why is it that we can deconstruct and objectively analyse other relationships. If their partner is being ‘dodgy’ we can see straight through it as though there are BIG NEON signs above their head that point to the obvious!
But when you have a similar ‘dodgy’ person in your life ... you are blinded to all these BIG NEON signs. Do we selectively ignore them so that we can keep this person in our life, even though it is clearly obvious even to a blind individual that they are either simply using you for ‘self-ego boost’, ‘physical pleasures’ as they simply don’t give an emotional F**K about you.
Simple scenario:
Boy meets girl, LUST obvious from both parties ... girl plays hard to get ... boy chases (simply because it’s a CHASE!) ... girl eventually gives in thinking ‘the fact that he’s chasing so much must be simply because he LOVES me more than I LIKE him’ ... boy’s got the girl now so he stops chasing ... girl now falls for the boy because he’s NOT chasing, so NOW she wants him because he's not chasing the way he used to.
Eventually they realise it won’t work out ... relationship ends ... but they still keep in contact (same level of contact as when they were going out – very unhealthy might I add) ... relationship turns into an ‘on-again-off-again’ class ...
One member of the relationship (normally girl) gets frustrated over moral dilemma, as to whether what she is doing is incorrect ... if they can’t be together in the long run, what is the point of all this on-again-off-again.
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